On Killing Book Review

On Killing

I finished Lt. Col Dave Grossman’s book On Killing recently. It’s about soldiers’ resistance to kill, how the military overcomes that instinct, and the larger reprecussions of that type of training on society. It is not a “how-to” book as I feared many people might’ve thought whenever I read it in public.

At the start I should say that Grossman presents a good case. He backs it up with hundreds of interviews with soldiers and his personal impressions from being in the service. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have a lot of hard data to support his point. Why? Because for the most part there just haven’t been a lot of studies on how to get someone to kill another person. It ranges into the unethical territory of psychological studies. The data he does have is convincing. Continue reading

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Watching Bachelorette with my Wife

My wife and I watch Bachelorette sometimes. No roses for kitties on the show though!
My wife and I watch Bachelorette sometimes. No roses for kitties on the show though!

My wife likes to watch the ABC show, The Bachelor, and I like my wife so I watch with her.

The Bachelor is a reality show where one man is courted by 25 women at once.

The first episode introduces the Bachelor and the eligible women. Subsequent episodes cover the dates the Bachelor goes on with one woman at a time or many.

At the end of the dates one woman on the date gets a rose, signaling that the date was successful.

At the end of the episode the Bachelor hands out additional roses, only there aren’t enough for all the women.

Like a game of musical chairs, some are left without roses and eliminated.

Eventually only a few women are left and the dates get more serious (meeting families and scandalous overnight dates).

When there are only two women left the Bachelor must choose one.

The show encourages a proposal at that point, but it doesn’t always happen. Sometimes the relationship doesn’t even continue at all from that point.

The show’s purpose is to create marriages, after all 1 out of 25 women should be marriage material, right?

The show’s track record is pretty bad though. 1 in 10 of the seasons ends in a successful marriage.

Originally there was only The Bachelor, but now there is The Bachelorette. It’s the same show with a woman as the central character and 25 men vying for her attention instead.

My wife likes it a lot. I feel like its forced drama by people who aren’t actors.

The creators and the people on the show have admitted that the conflicts on the show are largely fabricated.

Two people might be fighting, but they were told to fight by the producers.

Two people might seem to be insulting each other, but the show edits out the laughing afterwards at the ridiculous insult. Instead a frown is edited in from a different conversation.

Regardless of all that stuff it is still fun to hear about the drama and who gets eliminated.

I’ll continue watching the first few minutes with my wife every week and then getting bored and wandering away. She’ll fill me in on the rest afterwards.

And unfortunately, all my favorite characters keep getting eliminated.

-Mister Ed

Friends TV Show

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My wife got me the first six seasons of Friends for my birthday last month.

We’ve already watched out way through the first two seasons. We’re looking forward to the rest!

Initially she and I had both thought that Friends has only seven seasons. We were both pleasantly surprised to learn that the series has ten seasons! Three extra ones to look forward to!

My wife didn’t know about the Joey spin off either, so that’s one more season to look forward to.

Well, technically two Joey seasons, but the second was never released in the US and likely won’t be until the franchise is sold to someone. Who knows when that’ll happen!

Inevitably watching friends leads to comparisons between ourselves and the six characters.

I’ve always thought of myself like Chandler because I make a lot of jokes and I act like a little boy a lot.

My wife thinks I’m like Ross because I’m a nerdy scientist.

I think my wife is like Monica because she’s a perfectionist.

My wife thinks she’s like Rachel because she ends up with Ross and I am like Ross.

I took one of those quiz things to see which Friends character you are the other day. Here’s the Quiz Link.

I got Monica for some reason. I’m still a little confused by this.

It might’ve been because you can’t select more than one response. I personally would’ve put Monica as fifth on my list of which character I’m most like.

#1 Chandler, #2 Ross, #3 Phoebe, #4 Joey, #5 Monica, #6 Rachel

My wife got Monica on the test, so I am right!

-Mister Ed